Saturday, July 15, 2006

People make me sick!

This is Sunnie's husband. And I have something to bitch about! Why are some parents so selfish? I recently read an article in this local mag here in Charleston. It was about parents who willingly had their child wear a helmet because they had a flat spot on their head. Um...move the child once in awhile! There was nothing medically wrong with their baby. As we all know flat spots correct themselves in time. Meanwhile, MY son HAS to wear a helmet. He was born with craniosynostosis. The soft spots in his head closed too early. He had to have surgery where the doctors had to take a section of his skull out to create soft spots so hi brain could grow. He HAS to wear a helmet to mostly protect his head, but also to help shape it as his skull grows back together. My son NEEDS his helmet. I don't WANT him to wear it because I want him to have a "perfect shaped head." I hate that he has to wear a helmet. So WHY are other parents so selfish that they would willingly force their baby to wear this helmet just so their baby will have a "perfect" head? Come on people! Babies get flat spots if they lay on one side all the time. MOVE THEM to another side. It's not that difficult.

8 comments:

LittleJW said...

Ok I had to make a comment on this one because I read an article similar to the one you're referring to and it irritated the hell out of me. Why in god's name would a parent be so stupid and so consumed with what their child looks like that they would actually say to a doctor, hey the kids head is shaped funny, anything you can do about that? But even worse, what would make a doctor agree to fit a perfectly normal child with a helmet. I immediately thought of Jackson and the struggles he's had to go through his whole life and I was pissed. I almost wonder when we're going to start giving nose jobs to toddlers so they're not funny looking when they're pre teens.

Sunnie (Kaytee) said...

Money. That's what would make a doctor agree to it. The nose job remark was extremely hilarious! LOL

Sunnie (Kaytee) said...

I was going to apologize on behalf of Jimmy to anyone this might offend. But I just cannot bring myself to do so. Jimmy said what I don't have the guts to say. I completely agree with him on this issue. There's a BIG difference on my baby having to wear a helmet for medical reasons than a parent who has their baby wear one to correct something that will eventually correct itself. Granted, I admit, I don't know what the baby's doctors have said. But in the articles in Parents magazine and Lowcountry parents I read recently mentioned nothing about medical reasons. They were basically all about socmetic reasons. That bothered me so much. If it's a medical reason, I understand. But for something like a flat spot that corrects itself, why bother? I have three older children before Jackson. They all had flat spots. They all corrected themselves. I wouldn't have dreamed of making them wear a helmet for that. I have no choice with Jackson. He has a huge portion of his skull missing to accomodate brain growth. He HAS to wear a helmet.

Margo said...

Excuse me while I "chime" in on this one. The fact is I'm a good mom who is not selfish~quite the contrary. My son wore a corrective helmet for about 4 months whenhe was an infant. He needed some some remolding. I ought not have to defend myself for the decision to correct a problem that would have caused him grief in the future. His head was so flat that people often made comments about it. It looked very bad. I'm sorry for actually giving a rip about what my kid looks like. He wore the helmet for a few months and the problem was corrected. The helmet wasn't a problem. He didn't mind wearing it. It did not cause him any pain or problems. I'm sorry about your sons condition. You have my sympathy. I do not appreciate being called stupid or selfish. The skull flattening does not always correct itself. I did my homework. Do yours. Again, I'm a good parent. Wearing a helmet, for whatever the purpose, is not a curse.... And we don't plan on any nose jobs. I did it becaus I love my son and didn't want him to be picked on in the future by some mean kids. I didn't know letting him sleep on only his back would cause his head to become flat. I'm very hurt and annoyed.

Sunnie (Kaytee) said...

Margo, this was in no way directed towards you. I talked to your hubby at Heather's and knew your situation. I knew about your son so knew there was a reason for him wearing a helmet. The articles Jimmy was referring to made the parents seems completely selfish. To YOU, I apologize for any offense. But I will NOT apologize to those parents that did the helmet thing purely for cosmetic reasons.

Margo said...

No hard feelings. I'm sorry I got so upset. I understand why the helmet is so upsetting to you.

www.plagiocephaly.org

They aren't just throwing helmets on kids who have minimal flattening. It really does have to be severe. Trust me, Stephen's was severe! I'll show you some pictures some time.

Again, no hard feelings. :-)

Margo said...

Sorry~last post. I promise. ;-)

When Stephen last saw his doctor he suggested to us that we have an MRI done within the next six months to make sure that his brain is developing correctly-a portion of his skull is still out of shape and he's mildly concerned.

I just want to make sure you know that it's not only about his looks. :-)

Sunnie (Kaytee) said...

Margo, with you I KNOW it's not all about looks. I felt the vibe that it was different when I spoke to your Hubby. PLEASE call me tomorrow. I emailed you my info.