Monday, August 07, 2006

Misguided girl....or something else?

I'm starting this one over.

There's this girl around here, I'll call J. She's 13 years old and is in desperate need of guidance. She lievs with her mother and so-called brother. I say this because mother is 34 and so-called brother is 29. She makes me very uncomfortable, though she's always nice to me. She was recently dating a 28 year old. She's not anymore as far as I can tell. But when her mother found out, all she did was ground her for less than a week. She tries to get this guy's attention but from what I've seen, he completely ignores her.

She shows up at the pool in a skimpy bikini and pouts if there aren't several men hanging around the pool. This makes me really uncomfortable since I'm there with my 3 year old daughter (we're both in one pieces.)

She's constantly fighting with her mother, which wouldn't bother me too much since my mother and I fought a lot. But this girl and her mother will yell and cuss each other out. The mother is constantly calling the police on this girl. The mother told her neighbor, my friend, that she was trying to get J committed somewhere.

She's always wanting Jay to hang out with her, which I don't like. He's 10 and it's obvious she's got issues with sex. She uses her body to get attention, since I'm sure she only gets negative attention at home. Maybe the reason I don't like her is because I can see some of myself in her. Granted I chose a different route and threw myself in school.

It's obvious her mother is unapproachable when the first time I met her, she practically cussed me out for washing my clothes at home, then taking them to the dryers at the laundry center. So how can I go to her with my concerns for her daughter? I don't want to make life more miserable for her. But I also don't want to see her throw her life away.


Ami said...

It's fine to feel sorry for her. You can do that from a distance.

If she's having problems behaving appropriately at 13 there's not a whole lot that you, as a neighbor, can do. I think you're smart to keep your son away from her, however.

Brigid said...

Girl friend you know as well as I do you are making the right decision... and you can also guess where this 'girl' has learned it... I am sure 'mom' has had several boyfriends and she has seen what 'mom' does to attract men... Also she is at that age that she is interested in boys and confused because she really doesnt know anything... 'mom' isnt teaching her the right things or even bothering to correct bad judgement so she knows the right way to go about things. At this point I know it sounds cruel but she has passed the point of "rescue" and will only change when something bad comes of it... she is just a rape waiting to happen - which is horrible but she I am sure is too pig headed to listen to anyone about this subject and will only act worse if someone tries... Your best bet is to just avoid her and keep your kids out of that situation.

Ivy, the Great and Powerful said...

You know I love ya, Sunnie, but a 13 year old is stilla child. Calling a child a slut when clearly she has had no guidance whatsoever, is really mean-spirited, IMO.

Of course, I don't know this girl, either. But come on, man, she's thirteen. A child.

Sunnie (Kaytee) said...

Ivy, you're absolutely right. That was mean spirited. I changed the blog so it doesn't say slut.

Heather said...

Are you reporting this guy to the police? If you don't, if you feel like giving me the info I'll call into CPS, anonymously for you.

That girl does not have the maturity to deal with the situation. If she is with a 28yo, something needs to be done by someone. If you don't want to be that person, I will. Someone needs her best interest at heart.